In this insightful episode of the Dead America Podcast, host Ed Watters speaks with Gabor Kadas, co‑founder and CEO of Friending.com, the first social app built to combat the modern loneliness epidemic through verified identity and real‑world connection. Gabor explains how Friending’s strict verification system—powered by third‑party service Persona—eliminates fake profiles, bots, and ghosting by requiring users to confirm their identity and maintain a fixed ID‑style profile photo. Additional photos are allowed, but the core image remains locked to ensure authenticity.
Gabor walks through Friending’s unique features, including “AreYouIn” activity cards, real‑time and planned meetups within roughly 50 miles, and upcoming user‑created activities that make it easier than ever to meet people locally around shared interests. He also previews a future Bluetooth‑based safety alert device, a private rating signal used to improve match suggestions, and community perks such as partner discounts, subscriptions, and QR‑code coffee gifts that invite new users into the platform.
The conversation explores the deeper roots of loneliness: technology misuse, remote work, shrinking social circles, and the rising number of people living alone. Gabor shares why verified identity is essential for rebuilding trust, reducing anxiety, and encouraging genuine human connection in a digital world.
Listeners will learn:
How Friending.com combats loneliness through real‑world meetups
Why identity verification matters for safety and authenticity
How activity‑based matching encourages meaningful friendships
The impact of remote work and tech on social isolation
How to join Friending and start meeting people locally
Keywords: Gabor Kadas, Friending app, verified identity, loneliness epidemic, real‑world connection, Persona verification, social isolation, local meetups, AreYouIn activities, anti‑bot platform, friendship app, Dead America Podcast, Ed Watters.
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00:00 Opening Poem Dead America
01:02 Meet Gabor Kadas
02:44 Why Verification Matters
04:53 How ID Checks Work
09:09 Stopping Fake Profiles
11:30 Locked Profile Photos
13:16 Activities and Meetups
15:04 Safety and Community Perks
21:49 Loneliness and Tech Debate
33:28 Join Friending and QR Gifts
36:50 Closing Poetic Epilogue
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Award winning truth cuts through the haze,
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confronts the darkness
in these end times days.
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A single match struck against the fear,
hope ignites drawing redemption near.
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Can you feel the trembling in the ground?
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A buried heartbeat making sound.
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We all live in Dead America, but the
dawn’s creeping across the Panorama.
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This dead awakens, change
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begins, from broken places hope
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unpins.
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Yeah, we all live in Dead America,
one healing spark starts the pyre,
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burning brighter, taking it higher.
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Today we are speaking with Gabor Kadas, he
is the CEO and founder of friending.com.
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Gabor, could you please
introduce yourself?
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Let people know just a little
more about you, please.
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Yes.
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First of all, thank you for having me.
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Um, my name is Gabor and basically
I’m the co-founder of Friending.
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Um, it was started with a friend of mine.
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And basically it is an app that
tries to solve the problem of the
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day, which is sixty million people
being, I guess, lonely or, or,
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or not having too many friends.
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And that’s the official statistics.
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And, um, so basically as I, um, moved
around the world through my life, I was
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born in Central Europe in Hungary, and
lived most of my childhood in the UK.
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After university, I moved to Canada and
I’ve been in the states for thirty years.
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I have experienced
loneliness firsthand so, um,
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and when I, uh, basically met up with
my friend Zsolt, who’s the co-founder,
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he was doing this app already.
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And I said, Well, that’s a great app
because I, I can see the need for
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that from a personal perspective.
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Um, because basically working from home,
um, I’m moving around so much I really
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understand what it is to, to be alone.
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So, um, it derived from a personal
need and from a personal experience.
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There’s a lot to unpack with
this, there’s, there’s a lot
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of suspicion, there’s a lot
of, uh, pointing the fingers.
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And this is something unique because
what it does is it allows the anonymous
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web to really be held accountable.
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And I find that very interesting
what the app is doing, but I’m really
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interested how, how receptive are the
people to giving their identification
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in order to get on the app?
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Let’s start with that.
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Okay.
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Uh, first of all, the uh, full
version of that will launch in March.
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Um, at the moment it’s in a sort of MVP
beta stage available on the app store.
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And, um, yes, people are, I think, are
okay to, to give their identity because
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they are frustrated with the fact that on
other apps, maybe twenty, thirty percent
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of the users are fake, um, or are bought.
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Imagine a situation where you, let’s
say you’re a guy and you’ve been, um,
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exchanging messages with somebody,
over a month perhaps, and you have
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not met but you build up some sort
of expectation in your head, oh, she
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would look like this based on the
picture and what she’s describing.
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And when you push for a
meeting that never happens,
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and then she ghosts you.
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So it’s an emotional thing as well,
because you have some expectation.
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You built up a picture of that person,
that person turns out to be non-existent,
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but nonetheless, in, in your mind
at that stage, there was somebody.
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So I think people are, are fed up with
the frustration caused by fake app
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or fake, um, profiles and, um, bots.
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And what we’re doing is, yes, we are
asking people to verify themselves in
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a very strict way in the sense that you
need a driver’s license, and that means
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that at least you exist as a person.
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And just to be clear for your
listeners, we are not the ones doing the
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verification as I could understand the
hesitation for people not giving their
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identity, whatever, to a brand new app.
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But the actual verification is done
by a third party app called Persona.
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That will happen from March, it
doesn’t happen at the moment.
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So basically, Persona is the
one doing the verification.
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Think of this as you are giving your
credit card to the merchant in, in a
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shop, but this is not the, the merchant
who is doing the actual verification.
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You put your card in, go through a system,
and all the merchant says is a yes or no.
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Meaning, should I accept, you know,
the card has been accepted or not.
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And the same thing goes for us, all we
get back from Persona is saying, Yes,
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this is a valid ID, a valid person.
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So, um, there may be some, I
guess, hassle, but think of it
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the other way around, you know,
that all the other people on the
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platform has also been verified.
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So, um, I, I, I think that’s the
comfortable feeling to know that
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you’re not going to get ghosted.
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Um, that person is real, um,
and, and he or she exists and
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this is how he or she looks like.
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So yes, there is some inconvenience
perhaps, if that’s the word you want
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to use, but there’s a huge benefit
because you know that everybody
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else went through the same process.
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So, um, you know, they all
decided that they really want to
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solve this issue for themselves.
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They’re interested in meeting somebody in
their neighborhood with the same interest
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who is real and don’t want to go through
the disappointment that I spent a month
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exchanging, um, text messages, whatever,
with somebody who is non-existent.
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And I don’t understand people,
um, not solving this issue before
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because all it takes is verification.
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I guess the real problem for a
competitive platform is that they
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have a lot of users, we do not.
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So this is the benefit in this
respect because we can say to
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everybody, Hey, in order to join the
platform, you have to get verified.
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If you look at an existing brand,
they’re not going to, um, tell
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their whatever number of users that,
Hey, you need to get verified or
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you’re going to lose the platform.
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Um, they don’t really care,
but we do because we look at it
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from a different perspective.
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A, we are in a position to do that.
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B, we are in a position to say to people,
Hey, these people on this platform exist.
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So I think that’s going to be the
driving force, that’s going to be the
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magnet to pull people to the platform.
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Yeah.
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I, I, I see a trend amongst the social
media to have that verified badge, and
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that means something because that tells
us that even the bigger guys in the
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playing field recognize this bot issue.
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And if, if you’re on the internet,
you understand that discomfort
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from dealing with all of that.
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You don’t know if it’s real or not
and it tends to be getting worse
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as we go on with the internet.
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But people are starting
to address these issues.
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And from the very beginning of
the internet, I, I was always
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wondering, Why aren’t you needing to
be verified to be on the internet?
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Because it, it’s a safer
playground, if you will.
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So what do you feel that is
the major factor that keeps
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people from being verified?
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Uh, in some respects, they’re
afraid to reveal their identity.
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I think they use the internet as
a place to hide because you don’t
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have to have your own picture there.
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You can say whatever you want, nobody
can say that, you know, this is not true.
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You can say you are an eighteen-year-old
blonde when you’re a sixty-year-old
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guy, um, you know, you can project
a persona of whatever you want.
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And, um, you may have fun on the other
side of this, Hey, this guy really
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likes me so he may get a kick out of it.
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Um, there was a movie which came
out, I don’t know, it was made a few
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years ago, called, um, Clickbait.
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It was talking about exactly
the same thing, that basically
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a, what problem it caused.
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And, and it’s a very interesting film and
I think it was trying to bring this issue
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of, um, false, um, um, I guess, profiles
to, to the general public’s attention
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and made a very good movie out of it.
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So it’s nothing new it’s just
that it’s not in the interest of
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many other sites to, to have this.
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The type of verification they do is,
submit a photo perhaps when you’re
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touching your nose or, or whatever.
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That’s the extent of the
verification, um, which they can
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be done by AI or, or whatever.
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We actually match your ID and your face.
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So yes, you can mislead people
by saying you are the best tennis
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player and you haven’t touched a
tennis racket but at least you exist.
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At least that’s how you
look like, et cetera.
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So there is obviously a limit, but
I think that people who are willing
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to take this extra step do not
want to mislead people because they
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don’t want to be misled themselves.
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So they, they, they are looking to be
truthful, and I think that will create
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a whole different vibe on the platform
because they can, they know that they
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can trust other people on the platform.
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So I think that is the biggest
differentiating feature and
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the reasoning that, um, people
will come to our platform.
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Yeah, I, I found it interesting that
one of the features that you offer on
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this app is locked to that verification.
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Your, what is it?
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Profile picture has to be the same as your
verified photo and it can’t be changed.
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Why did you choose to do that?
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Um, because I don’t, if you can change it,
then you lost the essence of verification.
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Because if you put, if you can
replace your picture with the
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eighteen-year-old blonde, then, then,
then you’re misleading the potential
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people looking at your profile.
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So you are allowed to
put, how should I put it?
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More fun pictures up there where
you’re playing, I don’t know, tennis,
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whatever, you know, but your ID
type picture is, it is what it is.
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I mean, in a driver’s license or a
passport, you don’t have a fun picture,
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you just have a plain old picture,
you know, showing how you look.
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And that’s what we are sticking to
in the, um, profile, initial picture.
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So when you open the profile, you
have an idea how the person looks.
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And as you delve into the profile
itself, you see what he or she does in
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other activities or environment, you
know, depending on what type of picture
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is put up together with your profile.
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But I think the most important part
is to make sure that that’s how the
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picture, that the picture up there
represents you and that is how you look.
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Yeah.
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Uh, another great thing about it is
the interesting features that you
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have associated with the app, uh,
gatherings and things like that.
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Could you go over some of
those exciting features for us?
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Yes.
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Um, basically, um, what we have is
what is called the AreYouIn cards.
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Meaning, are you into that activity?
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So basically you say, I enjoy tennis,
volleyball, baseball, whatever it
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happens to be, this is where I live
and I’m looking for somebody within
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fifty miles of the, my location.
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Because I’m assuming that, um,
people will not travel more than
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fifty miles to meet somebody.
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So basically, there’s common
interest to start with.
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Because let’s say you both like to
play tennis and, but if there is an
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activity that’s not listed, you are
free to, um, create an activity in the
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next version coming up in a few weeks.
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Um, you can also create
real time activity.
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Let’s say you’re running and you decide
you want to have a running partner.
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In two or three clicks you can
say you’re running and looking
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for a, um, running partner now.
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So anybody who may be running in the
neighborhood, you know, you can, um, join
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them and basically, um, run together.
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So that’s sort of real time.
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We’d also be able to do something
that, hey, I am planning to
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go for a run tomorrow evening,
perhaps, is anybody interested?
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So you can, um, sort of plan, you can
do real time, that’s what I’m doing now.
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And you can just say, This is my
general interest and, uh, I don’t
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have any specific plan, but if
anybody’s interested in grabbing
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a coffee, you know, let me know.
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And one of the other things that
we’ll introduce in, in, I would say
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in the next six months, is a safety
feature that, although everybody
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has been verified, you may feel
uncomfortable at your first time meeting.
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Let’s say a tennis partner or
whatever, especially if you’re female.
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And, um, what we’ll do is that you can
actually tap the screen three times and
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that will actually, um, alert either
the police, a friend, or anybody in
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the neighborhood with the, um, not just
the friending app for this to work, it
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is a Bluetooth connection to a device.
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So you would need to have perhaps
a key chain that you can buy
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optionally or a bracelet because,
um, that’s the way iPhone works.
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Once the app is closed, there is no
way to, to, to deduct the orders.
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You are tapping on the screen so
we, you have to have Bluetooth for
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some other communication that’s
constantly on, um, to do that.
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So, um, but we do value safety
and it’s our top priority.
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So I, you know, selling this
additional item for, I don’t
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know, ten dollars or whatever.
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We still need to do research in terms
of, uh, costs involved in something.
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Again, prove that we value
safety above anything else.
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That is why we verify people.
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But verification only means
that this is how you look like
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and that’s what your name is.
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It doesn’t verify you as a
person in terms of intent.
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So really it’s not like
a traditional dating app.
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It’s kind of a combination of a dating
app and a community building app at
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the same time, is that what it is?
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In some respect it is, but it’s a
friending app because I believe that all
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more intimate relationships starts off
with being friends in the first place.
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So if that friendship turns
into a more intimate, romantic
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relationship, all the better.
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But I think people are more
comfortable with less pressure.
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Meaning let’s, let’s meet
for a date, well, not for a
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date, but for a coffee date.
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Not a date, date.
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And then sort of what happens, it’s less
pressure and people are thinking I’m
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more open to do that because they are,
it’s not a question of being rejected
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as in a, in a traditional date sense.
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All we are doing is playing tennis,
having coffee, going for a walk,
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you know, whatever it happens to be.
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So, um, more people will be
open to that because they are
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less afraid of being rejected.
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Uh, I like that a lot.
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That, that’s a good intent.
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And, you know, not everybody’s looking
for a date, they just want a friend.
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And, uh, I think I find that very unique.
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Uh, is there anything else
unique about what it offers?
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Yes, I, I think we, we
really mean friendship.
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And let’s say you want to go fishing,
which is a whole day activity.
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And what we’ll do is we will
offer free one month credit.
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It’s eventually, it’ll be subscription
based, but we will offer free one month
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credit to the person if that person in
your fishing trip stays over at your
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place, stays overnight because that
also enhances friendship and whatever.
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So our real aim is to build a community
and, uh, we’re, we’re not doing
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Airbnb, or couch surfing, or whatever.
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This is not for money, this is just
for you and him to enjoy the evening at
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whatever so they don’t have to drive back
or they can have a drink or, or whatever.
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And if both of you verify that this
happens, then, um, basically the host
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will get one month free, uh, once it is
a paid, subscription based app, which
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won’t happen until there are more users.
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And even that, it, it’s a minor charge,
anything from five to ten dollars,
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depending on what kind of services you
want to, um, take advantage of per month.
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You know, fifty bucks or a
hundred dollars per year.
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And even that, uh, eventually we
plan to partner with various, I
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don’t know, let’s say coffee shops
where if you are a Friending member,
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you get a ten percent discount.
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So, um, we plan to build a community,
involve other retailers to, to
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promote the app in some respects, and
realizing that you’re not going to
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be looking for a friend every month.
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Although we would like to keep you on the
app and, you know, we want to give you
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something for your five dollars a month.
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Even in those months where you don’t
actually find that friend, or looking
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for a friend, but at least you can,
you know, by, by just buying coffee
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in a coffee shop, you probably
save your five dollars back anyway.
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So it is a real community thing and
we are really doing anything that we
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can to solve the loneliness issue,
and we’re open for suggestions.
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You can always email
us@podcastatfriending.com if
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you have ideas or, or whatever.
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Um, what we’re also considering doing
in the background is that you can rate
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the other individual, but it is not
going to be a public rating system.
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It’s just that when we have a lot of users
that’s, uh, in a neighborhood, we have
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a, I don’t know, a hundred users, then
we’re trying to, um, give you the list of
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people who I think will be the best match.
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So, you know, if you are, um, ignorant,
or rude, or whatever, and many people
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tell us the same thing, then you
will be lower than, on the, on the
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suggestion list for, for friends.
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It’s not a, it’s not a public rating.
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You have no idea as a user,
it’s just the algorithm.
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Eventually, once we have enough
users, we’ll use it to determine who
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we think is the best match for you.
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That, that’s really a good security
feature within itself because
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it, it lowers that creepo meter,
uh, aspect of the internet.
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And a lot of individuals
nowadays, they’re gonna like that.
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You know, we’re around the same age, I
believe, I, I just turned sixty, so you
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remember back when we hung out at the
park and families would just be everywhere
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in the parks playing and gathering.
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And they used to have, you know,
at my, uh, local park, they had
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an arts and crafts center where
everybody could come and gather
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and do arts and crafts together.
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And nobody needed prompting to do that,
it was just a natural community thing
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that everybody really enjoyed themselves
and it’s a big different world now.
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So what you are doing with this app is
kind of creating that same environment,
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to invite people into that reminiscing
of the old days the way they were when
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everybody could talk to each other.
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Yes, absolutely.
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Two points in that regards.
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If you go to a restaurant today or
diner, whatever, you see a family just
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sitting at the table and everybody
is busy with their respected screen.
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So, um, you know, why, what, why go
out in the first place is my comment.
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Second comment is that when I was a
young kid and, you know, um, I got
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grounded for doing something bad and
I couldn’t use my bike, let’s say
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for a week or whatever, um, today the
whole world is turned upside down.
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You are sent out to use your
bike to get off from your app
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or you get off from your screen.
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So what used to be a penalty or, or
whatever, for me, it is now something
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that other kids are forced to do in
order to not be inside all the time.
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So, you know, in my mind, because of
my age, I grant you, that the world
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is in a totally wrong direction.
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And it’s not just me, projections
say that two thirds of the people
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living in the US in the next
five to ten years will be alone.
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Yeah.
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That’s alarming, you know?
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And that, you talked about in
your information sheet, the
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loneliness epidemic, and that is
incredible when you think about it.
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The, the quickness that this crept
into our lives is incredible.
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I, I would say it happened within
fifteen to twenty years and do
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you think the internet is one of
the leading factors causing that?
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Yes and no.
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Um, uh, when I moved to North
America, to Canada in, in the
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nineties, I could only afford to call
my parents in Europe once a week.
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So I called them every Saturday
because Saturday was the cheapest.
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Um, today, um, you know, you can FaceTime,
talk to them for hours at no cost.
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So technology has improved over the
last twenty years or twenty-five years.
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Yet the downside of technology caused
this issue, but is the technology
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at fault or is it how we use it?
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So the technology itself is great.
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Look, we can talk, you can see each other,
you know, we can do podcasts, whatever.
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So is it the technology to blame?
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No, I, I think it’s how you use it.
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Like if you have a gun, it’s not the
gun that is to blame for, if something
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happens, it’s how or who used it.
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So technology is wonderful because it
allows us to do what we’re doing now.
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It’s just people are, are, are not
trained or whatever when they grow up.
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I mean, I have a teenage daughter that,
but, um, even when she was a toddler, I
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would see people going to restaurant and
putting an Iphone or a tablet in front
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of their young kid to watch cartoons or
whatever instead of engaging the person.
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I remember, um, you know, we would,
brought coloring books, whatever.
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We would never Just ignore and
give something to the kid to do
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while we’re there or probably on
our phone actually, or whatever,
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giving it to the typical parents.
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So it is how the kids are brought up
today and, which causes this whole issue.
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And also I think, um, COVID has
a lot to do with it, although
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it’s not spreading as a virus.
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It’s a fact, it’s still around today.
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A lot of people are working from
home unwillingly in the sense
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that they work from home because
there’s nowhere to go in to work.
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And even if you only spend ten minutes
with your coworkers in a social
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environment a day for coffee or whatever,
at least you met up with people.
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I always work from home, so I’m
psychologically prepared to do that.
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But if, if you worked in a, um,
office environment, in the traditional
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sense, you were surrounded by people.
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And now today, you are at
home in front of the screen.
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And you may be in an uncomfortable
situation because you may have a toddler
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screaming next door in the, the different
bedroom, your wife may be also at home.
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So, and there may be, um, physical
constraints in terms of rooms or whatever.
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So people are forced into situation
where they don’t feel comfortable
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to be in because of the pandemic.
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And, um, because it’s not a virus,
you don’t see people psychologically
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being ill in the same sense as you
would see that they have COVID.
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So people are ignoring this because
it is not an apparent visual effect
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saying, Hey, this guy is sick because
he looks just as healthy as I or you.
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But in terms of blood pressure,
psyche, extreme cases, suicide,
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all of this has an effect.
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And what’s even also surprising is
your blood pressure and all that, your
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sugar, um, blood sugar has an effect.
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So it’s not just mental, it’s a physical
and less importantly, but the economy
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loses about one hundred and fifty
billion dollars a year because of
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people are not doing their best at work.
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Yeah.
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That, that’s a big factor of the
technology, and I, I really like that you
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point out that we don’t use it properly.
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And I, I think that we’re still in the
infancy stage of this internet, but
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at the same time, you know, how long,
how long did it take before we started
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issuing driver’s licenses and whatnot when
the technology of automobiles came on?
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It, it, it’s kind of interesting
that we don’t regulate the internet
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as much as we probably should.
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I think people live in a false, in a
false dream in the sense that they have
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friends because they have a thousand
people on Facebook that they’ve never met.
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And it is going to get worse because
with robots, AI, you may actually have
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a physical, quote unquote, being in,
in the room with you, um, there, I
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don’t know, Neo, whatever it’s called.
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You can get a robot for ten
thousand dollars, which today is
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ten thousand, in two years time
it’ll be one thousand dollars.
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So, um, that will generate
even bigger falsehood because,
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Hey, I have somebody here.
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And, you know, um, and always nice to me,
I never argue, that’s what I ask, the, the
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best thing you can want in some respect.
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But it’s just like drugs, you know,
you are high all the time and you
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are not in the real, real world.
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And human beings, um, since the Stone
Age, were designed to be in groups.
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So, you know, with real people, I know
there were no robots at the time, but
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I’m saying that your inner genes is coded
to be with real people and technology
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will never be able to replace that.
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Yeah, that’s interesting.
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You know, that, that herd mentality,
uh, it’s, it’s evolving, if you
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will, into a different subset
of cultural ideas, if you will.
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And that is kind of alarming when
you sit down and start thinking
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about the psychological aspects of
all of this, because it does lead
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into the physiology in your world.
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00:31:33,570 –> 00:31:41,340
And I know if I don’t get up and do
something other than just sit here
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00:31:41,400 –> 00:31:48,510
in the studio and play all day on
the internet, I, I tend to feel that.
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00:31:48,960 –> 00:31:51,240
And I, I can measure that.
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00:31:51,660 –> 00:32:00,510
So we need to find identifiers to help
us navigate through the new world that
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00:32:00,510 –> 00:32:06,210
we’re living in because we are living in
this new ordered and structured world.
413
00:32:06,990 –> 00:32:07,980
I totally agree.
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00:32:07,980 –> 00:32:17,010
And I think it is up to us as individuals
to, um, make sure that you set events
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00:32:17,070 –> 00:32:22,379
every day or a few times a week that
you go out and meet with people, because
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00:32:22,379 –> 00:32:26,730
otherwise you’re just going to be
isolated both mentally and physically.
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00:32:26,970 –> 00:32:31,920
So you need to get out of your
comfort zone, um, and I think most
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00:32:31,920 –> 00:32:35,850
people don’t need others because
they’re just comfortable, uh,
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00:32:35,879 –> 00:32:38,040
in sitting in front of a screen.
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00:32:38,745 –> 00:32:44,925
And you need to really go out and, and,
you know, whether it’s through Friending
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00:32:44,955 –> 00:32:50,895
or otherwise, you need to go out and
meet people in the real physical world.
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00:32:52,725 –> 00:32:54,135
Yeah, I agree with that.
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00:32:54,555 –> 00:33:01,095
You know, I, I myself find it harder
and harder to go associate with people
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00:33:01,095 –> 00:33:03,405
because everybody’s withdrawing.
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00:33:04,004 –> 00:33:13,514
And we have to remember the difference
is what helped us grow to this great
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00:33:13,514 –> 00:33:19,665
capacity here in the United States
and it spread around the world
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00:33:19,665 –> 00:33:27,405
for quite a few years, and we have
to start getting grips on that.
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00:33:28,095 –> 00:33:31,845
Is there anything else you
would like to discuss today?
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00:33:33,344 –> 00:33:37,050
Um, basically I would like to
encourage everybody to sign up
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00:33:37,050 –> 00:33:38,680
for Friending at the moment.
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00:33:38,740 –> 00:33:40,770
It’s free, it’s on friending.com.
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00:33:41,010 –> 00:33:43,139
It’s iOS only at the moment.
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00:33:43,469 –> 00:33:47,189
And we also have, which I haven’t
mentioned, um, as I said, we are
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really into friendships and gifting.
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00:33:49,740 –> 00:33:55,949
We have an interesting coffee that you can
buy on our, on our web store, on our site.
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00:33:55,949 –> 00:34:00,405
And what’s interesting, other than
the unique packaging, most of it is
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00:34:00,405 –> 00:34:05,085
various cities with famous landmarks
that perhaps you have a friend you
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00:34:05,085 –> 00:34:06,975
want to visit there or you live there.
439
00:34:06,975 –> 00:34:11,415
But, uh, other than those landmarks,
we have birthday versions and
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00:34:11,565 –> 00:34:13,425
St. Patrick’s day’s coming up.
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00:34:13,634 –> 00:34:18,404
But the neat thing about it is when you
buy the coffee, it’s usually as a gift,
442
00:34:18,795 –> 00:34:23,384
so you would type in a message, you could
say, Hey, thank you for the podcast.
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00:34:23,654 –> 00:34:28,755
You type it in and when the recipient
gets that coffee, there’s a QR code.
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00:34:29,069 –> 00:34:33,810
They download the app and read
their message, which is in, in,
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00:34:33,870 –> 00:34:35,909
you know, embedded in the QR code.
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00:34:36,090 –> 00:34:39,900
So we are using really, coffee other
than it’s, great coffee and nice
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00:34:39,900 –> 00:34:44,850
packaging as a marketing tool to,
uh, have people download the app.
448
00:34:44,909 –> 00:34:47,819
You don’t need to register,
but you need to download it.
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00:34:47,819 –> 00:34:53,025
And it says there’s a button there
saying read QR code and basically
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00:34:53,085 –> 00:34:54,465
that’s how you get your message.
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00:34:54,645 –> 00:35:01,455
I can actually, I don’t know, that’s the,
um, back of the packaging and that’s the
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00:35:01,455 –> 00:35:05,835
San Francisco Golden Gate Bridge version
of the coffee, but there are others.
453
00:35:05,835 –> 00:35:11,685
As I said, the most important part is this
because you need to, um, read the QR code.
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00:35:11,985 –> 00:35:16,335
So, um, it’s, it, it’s really neat
and you don’t need to send a gift card
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00:35:16,335 –> 00:35:17,865
with it, so you save on the gift card.
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00:35:18,540 –> 00:35:21,660
And it’s, it’s something
unique and it’s private because
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00:35:21,660 –> 00:35:23,820
all they see is the QR code.
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00:35:24,660 –> 00:35:27,810
So it’s not, it’s not printed
on the packaging, I mean.
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00:35:29,760 –> 00:35:35,670
That is definitely going to
evolve into other products, uh,
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00:35:35,670 –> 00:35:38,730
I can just see that being a hit.
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00:35:39,390 –> 00:35:43,595
Uh, a unique thank you,
that, that’s kind of awesome.
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00:35:45,705 –> 00:35:52,185
Well, Gabor, I have enjoyed speaking
to you about the app and some of
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00:35:52,185 –> 00:35:54,375
the things going on in our world.
464
00:35:54,825 –> 00:35:59,685
Could you let people know how to get
involved with you and reach out to you?
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00:36:00,955 –> 00:36:01,205
Yeah.
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00:36:01,465 –> 00:36:06,405
The easiest way is if you just send
a message, um, podcast@friending.com
467
00:36:06,765 –> 00:36:11,055
or you can go to our website and
use the, uh, email address there,
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00:36:11,055 –> 00:36:13,755
which is hello@friending.com.
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00:36:14,115 –> 00:36:19,245
Um, the podcast will tell me that
you heard about the app on the
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00:36:19,275 –> 00:36:23,745
podcast, but you’re welcome to
use, um, either email address.
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00:36:24,195 –> 00:36:27,825
Feel free to suggest, feel free to
let me know what you think doesn’t
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00:36:27,825 –> 00:36:31,214
work, feel free to know what
you think we should have and do.
473
00:36:31,515 –> 00:36:33,585
And thank you very much for having me.
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00:36:34,694 –> 00:36:35,775
It’s been a pleasure.
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00:36:35,775 –> 00:36:36,855
Thank you for being here.
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00:36:37,694 –> 00:36:38,535
Thank you so much.
477
00:36:50,335 –> 00:36:53,925
Budapest Airport, winter ’94.
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00:36:55,395 –> 00:37:00,154
Snowflakes melting on the tarmac,
a final glance at the Chain Bridge.
479
00:37:00,735 –> 00:37:06,195
One leather suitcase cracked at the edges,
stuffed with paprika and faded photos.
480
00:37:06,375 –> 00:37:10,115
Golden State billboards scream
in neon English, his dictionary
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00:37:10,345 –> 00:37:11,870
worn thin by midnight.
482
00:37:13,009 –> 00:37:16,910
Christmas lights flicker on his
studio wall, reflections dancing in
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00:37:16,910 –> 00:37:21,950
his coffee while Budapest’s laughter
echoes through the tiny screen.
484
00:37:21,950 –> 00:37:26,270
His mother’s wrinkled hands, dawn
spills on mechanical keyboards.
485
00:37:26,270 –> 00:37:30,049
The blue glow etching shadows under
his eyes, building connections
486
00:37:30,049 –> 00:37:31,910
one algorithm at a time.
487
00:37:31,910 –> 00:37:37,129
Digital stitches across the ocean from
the Danube’s bend where willows weep,
488
00:37:37,189 –> 00:37:39,790
to the Pacific’s endless concrete sweep.
489
00:37:40,310 –> 00:37:43,790
A lifetime spent translating
dreams into code, knocking
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00:37:43,790 –> 00:37:45,759
on servers instead of doors.
491
00:37:47,439 –> 00:37:52,180
Hungary to California roam,
thirty years of airport
492
00:37:52,230 –> 00:37:52,649
chrome.
493
00:37:52,649 –> 00:37:56,000
Still tasting goulash in Silicon air.
494
00:37:56,000 –> 00:38:00,695
Gabor builds bridges through the
screen, fifty million blinking green.
495
00:38:01,005 –> 00:38:01,935
Friending finds what
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00:38:07,035 –> 00:38:20,815
lonely hearts need, a glowing web of
light where lonely hearts entwine.
497
00:38:20,815 –> 00:38:24,060
Midnight oil burning in mountain
view cubes, debugging the
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00:38:24,060 –> 00:38:27,900
loneliness in hexadecimal hues.
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00:38:30,030 –> 00:38:35,480
Each line of code like a
fisherman’s net, casting wide
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00:38:35,480 –> 00:38:38,320
across time zones, hauling in faces.
501
00:38:38,470 –> 00:38:38,660
From tiny flats
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00:38:42,060 –> 00:38:45,979
with laundry on chairs, smelling
of paprika and diesel air.
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00:38:46,209 –> 00:38:46,329
To
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00:38:46,329 –> 00:38:51,100
data centers humming like hives,
where every packet carries lives.
505
00:38:51,100 –> 00:38:56,290
That 3:00 AM call across fourteen hours,
bridges the distance with silicon flowers.
506
00:39:02,010 –> 00:39:02,940
Hungary
507
00:39:02,950 –> 00:39:07,310
to California roam, thirty
years of airport chrome.
508
00:39:07,310 –> 00:39:09,720
Still tasting goulash in Silicon air.
509
00:39:10,510 –> 00:39:15,500
Gabor builds bridges through the
screen, fifty million blinking green.
510
00:39:15,550 –> 00:39:20,490
Friending finds what lonely hearts
need, a glowing web of light
511
00:39:21,300 –> 00:39:23,370
where lonely hearts entwine.
512
00:39:23,995 –> 00:39:28,880
A new connection, Budapest dawn, a
notification, his childhood lawn.
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00:39:29,200 –> 00:39:30,250
Through constellations
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00:39:30,250 –> 00:39:34,930
Of human desperation
and digital salvation.
515
00:39:34,930 –> 00:39:39,730
Silicon Valley, servers hum lullabies,
the Danube whispers old goodbyes.
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00:39:39,730 –> 00:39:39,790
Two
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00:39:39,790 –> 00:39:46,915
distant shores where the lonely hearts
go, not quite home, not quite alone.
518
00:39:48,680 –> 00:39:55,520
Through fiber optic veins and
satellite bones, a new world grows
519
00:39:58,740 –> 00:40:00,829
in the space between phones.