Doug Noll and Laurel Coffer started the Prison Peace Project in 2009, which has trained over 1000 women and 1000 men to be peacemakers and mediators. The project has expanded to 15 California prisons, a prison in Connecticut, 14 prisons in Greece, and startups in Italy and Nairobi. The curriculum teaches inmates how to listen, de-escalate, conduct listening peace circles, make durable agreements, coach people, manage strong emotions, and morally reengage people who are morally disengaged. The project has had a 0% recidivism rate, and none of its students have reoffended. The speaker discusses their work teaching incarcerated individuals conflict resolution skills, which has led to a transformation in their behavior and a shift towards promoting peace. They explain their technique of cognitive empathy, which involves reflecting on someone’s emotions to them, and how it can lead to a calming effect on the brain. The meeting discussed the use of “you” and “I” statements in communication, with the conclusion that “you” statements are ineffective and “I” statements should be used to express one’s own emotions. The importance of emotional competency was also emphasized, with the distinction made between emotional intelligence (a measure) and emotional confidence (a set of skills). The meeting discussed how emotional incompetence is passed down from parents to children, causing emotional stunting in adults. The solution is to learn emotional competence and identify triggers through environmental cues and affect labeling. Doug offers public speaking, coaching, and workshops on listening skills and emotional confidence. His goal is to help people become better listeners and spread peace.
Action items
- Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements in communication.
- Learn emotional competence and identify triggers through environmental cues and affect labeling.
- Attend public speaking, coaching, and workshops on listening skills and emotional confidence offered by Doug Noll.
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